Two Truths

Hey Friends!

For those of you who are new here, one thing you'll come to learn about me is that I am big on healing. I'm usually the first to dive head first, into any healing that needs to be had. I believe that everyone can benefit from some deep digging and soul searching. More importantly, everyone can benefit from therapy. Exploring the reasons why certain things trigger you and resolving them brings so much clarity. Once you know why you're triggered, you can then proceed with healing the wounded part of you. That part of you that can only view that trigger through tainted glasses. At some point you want to be able to shift your focus and attain a clear view point.

Over the past couple of years, I have been working on healing some places within me. If you followed my last blog, you may remember that I was in search of a new therapist. The update on that is I found one, and she's amazing. What I've realized in doing so is, two things can be true at the same time. You can be happy, and still be healing. You can be healed, and some things still hurt. Here's the thing, healing is not linear.

You can go to therapy and your wounds still hurt for a little. The fact of the matter is, healing is a process. Therapy is a process, you don't go to one session and figure it all out, even if it feels like you do. Healing is not "A" to "B." Matter of fact, most times it goes like this: A Z3CD61011E45FJK..etc

There's no outline for how it should be done and in what order it should be done in. For me, it's usually me casting my cares on to God, and talking through things in therapy. I allow myself to feel but I also redirect myself when needed. And if I'm honest, sometimes the redirect is hard. For me, therapy has been a place of processing, a place where I've been learning how to navigate my triggers to keep me from meeting people where they're at.

There are two way's you can meet someone where they are:

1. By extending continual grace, as the Good Lord does for each of us daily.

2.

I typically go with number one, 98% of the time. Like I'm good at turning the other cheek, giving grace, understanding the human aspect of people. More importantly, not taking things so personal, even when things are personal. I've learned that most of the time, how people treat you has nothing to do with you.

But, there's that 2%. Can I be honest? Sometimes I struggle with turning the other cheek. Sometimes I have to ask God if I can tuck my saved away for a minute, and tap into the old me. I mean His answer is always no.

Of course His "no's" don't come without lessons. In the "no's," I've learned that you can extend grace, and still have boundaries. That you can turn the other cheek, and not take people's foolishness. Now this is something I'm still grasping, because sometimes I find myself wanting to acknowledge the brokenness in people, but then I remember it's just that.

Brokenness.

It's their unhealed place, screaming for acknowledgement. This week I'm asking the Good Lord to help me, help them. This is a full on Tabitha Brown moment where "Honey, I hope you heal" comes full circle.

Friends, what two things are true for you this week? What things are you navigating and asking God to help you through?

Let's chat soon!

HH