Postpartum Truths: Grace, Growth, and Letting Go of Perfection

Hey Friends!

Tomorrow marks 5 months postpartum for me.

And my edgeessssssss... have definitely taken flight, but that's a stroy for a different day.

Where my mama’s at? If you’re a mom or close with a mom, you know how wild the postpartum journey can be. Honestly, postpartum has been kicking my tail, and I’m just thankful to still feel somewhat like myself. I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t struggled to find the “balance” of it all. This journey has been beautiful, yes, but also overwhelming.

With this being my rainbow baby—aka not my first rodeo—I thought I was fully equipped to handle whatever came my way. Honey, let me tell you, this fourth kid has been anything but textbook. If I’ve learned anything, it’s that the moment you think you’ve got it all figured out, life reminds you how little you really know.

As someone who’s generally confident, I wasn’t prepared for how much postpartum would make me question everything about myself. I found that I was being harder on myself than usual. Or maybe not harder—but the self-doubt hit differently this time. One big realization I had was that I was busy trying to be the version of me that existed before our little rainbow arrived. It never dawned on me that I’m not her anymore.

With the birth of each child, you’re ushered into a new level of womanhood and motherhood. You’re never really the same person you were before. I had to figure out how to show up as this new version of myself—to expand my thought processes, emotional responses, and, most importantly, my expectations of myself.

Like many others, I struggled with not feeling like myself or what I believed to be myself. As I started to unpack those feelings, I realized that postpartum touches every area of life—physical changes, emotional adjustments, and, of course, lifestyle shifts. For me, the hardest part was thinking I had it all figured out, only to be rudely awakened by the realization that I didn’t. That was humbling, to say the least.

Through this process, I’ve discovered a few things that have helped me navigate postpartum, but let me be clear: this isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. What worked for me may not work for you, and there’s absolutely no shame in seeking help—in any form—if you need it. At the end of the day, do what’s best for you.

For me, giving myself grace and showing self-compassion have been game-changers. I’ve had to remind myself, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” It’s okay to take things one step at a time and to celebrate small victories along the way. Confidence isn’t about having it all together; it’s about showing up for yourself, even when things feel messy and uncertain.

To any mamas reading this, know that you’re not alone.

Whether it’s your first child or your fourth, postpartum is a journey—one that reshapes you in ways you never imagined. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to not have it all figured out. And it’s more than okay to give yourself the grace and space to grow.

JK! we're not crazy Just balancing these hormones!

Here’s to navigating the chaos, embracing the changes, rediscovering confidence, and regrowing our edges—one day at a time. If you’ve been through postpartum or are currently in it, I’d love to hear your story. What’s helped you the most?

Let’s support one another on this beautiful, challenging journey.

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HH 💚