How to Show Up Boldly in a World That Wants You to Shrink

Have you ever felt the need to shrink yourself to make others comfortable? Ever had that feeling that being fully you was too much for others? That if you showed up and really took up space, people wouldn’t know how to perceive you?

Yeah, me too.

I can’t tell you how many spaces I’ve walked into where I felt like I should withhold parts of myself—just so I wouldn’t come across as a know-it-all, as if I think I’m perfect, or, plainly put, to avoid exposing someone else’s insecurities.

But over the years, I’ve realized I’m not alone. Women everywhere are holding back pieces of themselves to keep others comfortable—to let others feel what they need to feel about themselves while secretly hiding the truth in the moment.

And nothing has become clearer to me than this: It’s past time for us to step fully into our boldness—with confidence and authenticity.

Society often conditions people—especially women—to be "humble," "polite," or "agreeable" at the cost of their voice.

And sure, I can be humble and polite, but why should I have to agree with something that doesn’t sit right with me? Why do I have to stroke someone’s ego just to avoid discomfort? I can disagree without being disagreeable.

Agree to disagree, right?

But I’ve realized that fear of judgment, cultural expectations, and past experiences often make people hesitate to fully express themselves.

You might be thinking, “I never play it small.” But I want you to take a moment and reflect—do any of these sound familiar?

• Downplaying your accomplishments?

• Apologizing too much?

• Avoiding opportunities because you feel unqualified?

If so, then I’ve got news for you—you’ve been shrinking. And that’s okay, because now that you recognize it, you can choose to stop.

Confidence starts with self-acceptance. Whether in work, social circles, or at home, it’s important to embrace both your strengths and differences.

Here’s how you can step into your power:

✅ Speak up in conversations.

✅ Share your ideas without second-guessing.

✅ Take up space—literally and figuratively.

Many people hold back because they don’t want to be seen as too loud, too opinionated, or too ambitious. But let me tell you—being "too much" is often just being fully yourself.

Like any muscle, boldness grows with practice.

Here are some actionable steps to help you step into your full self:

• Speak with conviction.

• Say "yes" to opportunities.

• Practice confident body language.

• Surround yourself with people who celebrate your strength—not those who try to dim it.

You were created to shine, not shrink. The world doesn’t need a watered-down version of you—it needs the real you.

So, how will you show up boldly this week?

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